A Journey Within and Without Anxiety or Fear

Many people on this planet live under the rule of fear, in a state of physical, emotional, and mental tyranny. Fear keeps them in a condition of emotional misery, suppressing their health and their higher consciousness. Trapped in survival mode, people with anxiety are consumed with feelings of dread, driven by compulsive action to undertake and ward off a perceived, expected, or imagined danger. While anxiety is a universal human emotion known to us all, some people’s destiny is more directly involved with learning to particularly overcome this type of suffering – with or without entering anxiety treatment centers and programs.

Anxiety can range from a vague and constant sense of foreboding, uneasiness, worry, a pervasive background feeling that it is not safe to relax, to a more acute and sudden full-blown state of panic. During a panic, the body becomes highly dysregulated, which is to say it shuts down under the onslaught of fear chemicals flooding the body and mind. This flood of chemicals is designed by nature to be called upon, if necessary, to face life-threatening danger. Still, for the person with anxiety, fight-flight physiological reactions are being mobilized in anticipation of danger that only might occur.

People who are frequently and severely triggered into fear deserve the utmost compassion, as they tolerate a truly hellish state. Fear’s hard, toxic effect on the body feels awful and has many health repercussions.  The thoughts generated by fear are appropriate for a war zone: “I have to do something right now or else, I fight, someone, off, I have to escape but I can’t, Someone, please get me out of here, I’m helpless, I’m about to die, I have to do something not to die, but I can’t, I’m trapped, I’m powerless” and so on.

For many women coping with anxiety, the grueling anxiety attack itself eventually becomes the most feared experience, and the reason for seeking anxiety treatment centers, programs, and other support. It is no wonder they may begin to live in terror of encountering their own fear and shut their worlds down to reduce the risk of getting triggered. When we are oppressed by anxiety, we become obsessed with control. To stay in a posture of guardedness against a danger we fear, which, although dreaded and sensed, cannot be predicted or managed, we maintain a state of vigilance:

    • We stay battened down, crouched, hyperalert and uneasy, ready to spring into action should the dreaded reality come to pass.
    • We opt out of situations and events that are too open-ended or unknown, believing we must have prediction and control to manage and reduce the experiences of anxiety that have been oppressing us.
    • We may spend our energies scanning the environment and anticipating all potential outcomes of all events.
    • We may be shut out of the present moment – where all joy exists – because we feel compelled to look past what is happening here and now, into a projected potential future.

Unable to stop and sense into the now, we are locked out of pleasure and trapped in a loop of planning for what could happen, what might go wrong. A friend once described this as “pre-living”– a practice of unhealthy dwelling in the future. Though we might scoff at fortune tellers, psychics, and magic eight balls, we unquestioningly believe our own equally unscientific predictions. The anxiety disorders named by medical science have different flavors, according to which danger we may be especially preoccupied with and ways we may have behaved to ward off those dangers.

Those of us relating to social phobia description may fear humiliation and thus seek shelter in isolation. Those relating to the flavor of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) may fear contamination and ward it off with rituals and repetition. People with separation anxiety feel an intense fear when losing contact with a person or place that signifies safety. In contrast, people with specific phobias may be particularly centered on one threat, such as snakes. There are many different ways to experience anxiety. The broadest category, generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), refers to a pattern of chronic, general fear attached to a wide variety of triggers or even seem to exist in us without an anchor.

What exactly we fear and obsess over may feel personal. Still, the physiology of fear is the same for all these disorders: rapid heart rate, sweating, shallow breathing, stress, and hypervigilance are signs that the body is in fight-flight mode. Severe anxiety is such an uncomfortable and harrowing experience that many sufferers seek relief in the form of drugs, alcohol, prescription medications, and other disordered behavior patterns like relationship addiction, codependency, and unhealthy eating. But as with all illnesses of the soul, short-term suppression of the surface symptom alone does not get at the underlying reason that these kinds of signals are coming up in the body all the time, in the first place.

For a person who is afraid of her own state of fear, and therefore of the many things that could cause her to go into that state of fear, she first needs to learn how to get out of that fear state and back into feeling good. As she begins to free herself out of fear, she will fear her fearlessness and gradually learn to regulate herself in situations where her fearful reaction is not useful. As a result, she will not need to take actions meant to keep her out of fear compulsively – she knows that should fear to arise, she can get herself out of it. Her world can then open up, and she can collect safety experiences and notice the times when it all worked out fine.

Integrative, Holistic Anxiety Treatment Centers for Women

At Villa Kali Ma’s holistic anxiety treatment centers for women, we teach women who struggle with anxiety how they can ease their own states of fear and learn to have sovereignty over their own emotional worlds again. Therapies to help the body to re-set to the physiological state of relaxed calm, including (but not limited to):

    • Daily gentle yoga
    • Mindfulness and meditation practice as well as breathwork
    • Craniosacral therapy (CST)
    • Massage therapy
    • Reiki with aromatherapy

Each time a woman creates relaxation and safety experiences in her body, she grows stronger in her ability to counteract fear. Thus, the emotional healing of previous life events that wired her to fear life in the first place is addressed through:

At Villa Kali Ma’s holistic anxiety treatment centers for women, we create a safe and intimate container for women to discover the healing joy of finding a safe community through the connection in recovery. Over time, the cultivation of a reliable spiritual connection that provides supple and abundant support for navigating her human experiences gradually replaces the state of fear. With time and practice, women who have suffered under the rule of fear can come to live peaceably and happily in a more loving, safe, and relaxed state of being.

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